Tell our men to bring their friends — our Asian fam needs us

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I am peaceful, but I’m not a passivist — never have been — never will be…I never started a fight, but I ended plenty and stay prepared. My Grandfather taught me how to defend myself, because he said, “the world isn’t safe [for women and girls]”. I was an only child raised by my beloved Grandparents. I have a special place in my heart for grandparents because of their wisdom and their fighting spirit. Yet, they weren’t bitter and showed me a life filled with faith, forgiveness and compassion for others.

I don’t know how NOT to fight, but I…


Black youth and hip hop don’t speak for all of us

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Let me preface this piece by saying I have and will always stand with the Asian community — especially following the racist murder of 6 Asian women in Georgia and increased attacks across the country. Sadly, as we call for unity between Black and Asian communities, another controversy unfolds. TheGrio.com published screenshots of an Asian staffer using the N-word following Alexi McCammond’s resignation from Teen Vogue. This latest development is the inspiration for this article.

To all my Asian brothers and sisters in the United States, abroad or in your respective 49–52 countries:

PLEASE STOP USING THE N-WORD! I do…


A lesson in real diversity and cultural competent communication

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*Quick update: We’ve since confirmed that the lady in the video is Secretary of Housing and Urban Development, Ms. Marcia Fudge. Consequently, revisions were made to give proper respect to Secretary Fudge.

Black Twitter is a blowing up with the video of this beautiful, older sister addressing the White House press corps and expecting some basic respect. It’s customary in Black, some brown communities to greet everyone when we enter the room. The elder followed that long standing custom and social norm and no one responded. As per the tradition, she gave a nonverbal signal for them to course correct…


A funny but true story

White women we don’t want your sad, sloppy seconds

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Let me preface this story by saying this is not about all white people or the faithful and loving few who honor, respect Black and brown people. This story is not about white people who are proudly and happily married to Black and brown people like: Ellen Pompeo, Alexis Ohanian, Paul Wall, and many others. This is about your troubling brethren — like Chet Hanks, Meghan Markle’s dad, Whoppi Goldberg and Halle Berry’s exes who seem to date or pursue Black and brown women by default, convenience, selfish or nefarious reasons.

This is about white men (and some women) who…


Some of us wish we could be so lucky

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I’m hating on the haters and I don’t care — this is not cool. I’m all for critical thinking, but I’m one of millions of writers who did not receive a $500 windfall and happens to be on a super tight budget. I don’t know about you but, I’m getting peeved by the random articles criticizing and questioning why they were one of the fortunate few. …


Everybody is “getting paid” & successful except in finding Black love

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Are all younger, highly educated, Black people beautiful, ballin’ and living happily ever after in post racial America where all the people in their circle are colorblind except for all the green that’s abundantly flowing to and from their bank accounts and love them unconditionally?

Based on the Clubhouse chat rooms:

  • Racism is gone, and older, poor Black folk just don’t understand
  • Black men can date whomever, but Black women need to date only Black men otherwise we’re betraying our race
  • Black women need to look white — but can’t sound white
  • Black women need to shut up and grateful…


I agree - very funny. I'm tired of the privilege party. Some of us are here to perfect our craft and make money - but if money is all you talk about how much value are you adding to your readers and Medium's writing community?


Hmmm - I ponder the question a lot. I think if more people thought about this they would approach life with more compassion and patience with others and themselves.


Sorry for the delay -I'm happy you got the joke - lol. Thank you for reading I truly appreciate it and my dear - you know ding dang well Priviletta's don't clean. lol

That's why they're so angry they're still pissed they have to pay for services.


Thank you all for reading this piece and your feedback. I truly appreciate you taking time to read my work and giving me such thoughtful and touching responses.

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