America’s lies are destroying our country! We’ve taught children that a man sailed “the ocean blue” and “discovered” America when it was actually another land that was already inhabited.

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We celebrate holidays based on revisionist history like:

Thanksgiving — When the “nice”, peaceful pilgrims invited the First nations to a feast to share their cultural and culinary traditions; forgetting the millions murdered and stolen land.

4th of July — In 1776 America declared this their independence day when enslaved Africans weren’t fully emancipated until June 19, 1865.

And the worst lies are the “love stories” between old, white men and underage enslaved and indigenous girls like Sally Hennig and Pocahontas. …


The Noni Name Game - NSFW Warning

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Ladies, what do you call your “V”? Do you use slang, a slur, a secret nickname or medical terms for your inner and outer “V” spot? I don’t know why — but I’m a tad bit ashamed and little shy when it comes to using medical terms for my genitalia. I prefer slang and nicknames and apparently most people do…

Oprah calls hers a va-jay-jay? Reality stars like Joseline Hernandez calls hers a a cootie cat, and K. Michelle calls hers a hot pocket and a who-ha. Back in the day, I’ve heard some other colorful names such as:

Flowerlotus flower bomb — shout out to…


A CASE STUDY ON GENTRIFIED TRIBALISM

WARNING: ADULTS ONLY (Sexually explicit language and images)

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Disclaimer: This piece nor this episode are suitable for children or work computers. Content may cause blushing, a few giggles & some cursing. Proceed with caution, an open mind & tongue in cheek — Enjoy!

In my first piece: Boug’ & Confused, I shared some of my initial reactions to the third episode of Goop’s docuseries on Netflix, “The Pleasure Is Ours”.

Ladies and interested gents, according to their featured sex expert, Betty Dodson, our “V” is not our vagina. We’ve had it wrong ALL along! Ms. …


Culture vultures versus real artists

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Chester Marlon Hanks (Chet) is the son of millionaire actor Tom Hanks. Chet is also an actor and aspiring rapper, Chet Haze who’s occasionally transracial Jamaican since January 2020. If you’re not familiar with hip hop culture, he’s like the male Amethyst Amelia Kelly, a runaway white girl from Australia that magically morphed into hoodlicious, Black-inspired rapper, Iggy Azelea.

As a woman of African descent with friends and family from Jamaica, I find Chet Hanks’ fascination and use of Jamaican patios to be both annoying and sad, but I don’t totally blame him.

I think the music industry and social media platforms should share the blame because they make millions of dollars featuring white people like Chet and countless others that steal and appropriate Black culture, music and intellectual property. I refuse to use my platform to get them more profitable clicks and views — so feel free to Google a popular Black artist and there’s probably a video of some random suburban teen or adult culture vulture calling it “their new song” (without permission, credit or compensation to the original artists). …


Radical Stewardship

Tithing and donating your time, talents and money as an act of faith and community justice

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Christians and Black and brown people of all faiths need to invest in social justice & use all our resources including our time, talents and money to invest in our communities to make real impact and lasting change.

I am by no means a theological scholar, but I have studied theology and I’m a lifelong Christian and the Bible speaks of bringing your “first fruits” and taking care of our community as part of the Christian faith. …


Lean out and just listen and learn

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A woman wrote a piece praising Eva Longoria for not apologizing and argued that she was justified in simply clarifying her statement. This is my response to her piece and any white women who feel compelled to comment on the controversy.

Stop. Full stop — hard stop. Eva Longoria did in fact clarify her statement, and gave a heartfelt and thorough apology to Black women. As a matter of fact, it should be a teachable moment for white women who call themselves feminists and allies.

While Eva’s original comment may not have intended to dismiss Black women’s efforts, she did when she only gave Black women credit for Georgia and further elaborated. Saying she didn’t diminish the contributions of Black women throughout the country is biased — but most women outside of the Black community wouldn’t or couldn’t fully understand why. …


African American roots and religion

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On behalf of Christians everywhere, thank you Paula White for praying so hard for African angels to intervene on our behalf! God knows we needed a miracle — even if it wasn’t the miracle you were praying for. But, girl — thank you, anyway. My Grandmother was a praying woman and she always said, “God works in mysterious ways!” Well, he must have answered our prayers because it seems like those angels flew over and stirred the spirits of all the men, women and children who flipped those states. …


Trigger warning: It’s explicit and necessary

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I just watched Jada Pinkett Smith’s Red Table Talk (RTT) and they had an in-depth discussion about rape and consent. This is a conversation that is long overdue! It is especially important to see three generations of Black women talking about this because historically Black women have been silenced, dismissed or ignored. Black women are reclaiming our voices and agency over our bodies with regard to sex, rape, consent and our humanity as victims.

Thank God for shows like Red Table Talk, but I would be remised if I didn’t talk about the Black women who’ve talked about rape and consent in their work — like Ntozake Shange in For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide / When the Rainbow Is Enuf and Sonia Sanchez in Wounded In The House of A Friend. These two books helped me heal when I was brutally raped and stalked in college. …


How I use writing to rage against racist machines

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I’ve heard of antagonistic bots on Facebook and Twitter posting racist comments and rhetoric to cause racial conflict, but I think they’ve started targeting Medium. I just discovered possible bots that have been responding to my posts or responses to other people’s pieces.

Over the last year, a number of negative and racist comments have come from weird accounts that appear to be white men have increased. At first, I blocked them, but then I started to respond.

I thought I should chronicle my experiences because they are a little creepy and I wanted to see if there was a pattern. …


Black Women In America

An open letter and serious inquiry

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I’ve been listening to Minda Hart’s audiobook The Memo on Audible and related to every word and story. I took notes on her tips to help Black women survive and thrive in the business world. Then, to my bittersweet surprise I found Megan Thee Stallion’s Op Ed in the New York Times. I’d heard some buzz about it, but when I watched the video and read the piece, I was moved.

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