Free speech and free thought doesn’t apply to Black and brown people?

AP — David J Phillip 2019

Several people like Meghan McCain are criticizing Gwen Berry for turning away during the National Anthem — but it’s her right as an American.

I’ve seen hateful comments spouting the same racist rhetoric starting with the classic: “If you hate this country…”

Protest and criticism doesn’t always come from a place of hate. Athletes like Gwen worked hard to represent this country but that doesn’t mean she can’t also see flaws or work to improve them.

If my fellow Americans are outraged and embarrassed by Black athletes’ quiet protests on international stages — maybe you should put that energy…


Tell our men to bring their friends — our Asian fam needs us

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I am peaceful, but I’m not a passivist — never have been — never will be…I never started a fight, but I ended plenty and stay prepared. My Grandfather taught me how to defend myself, because he said, “the world isn’t safe [for women and girls]”. I was an only child raised by my beloved Grandparents. I have a special place in my heart for grandparents because of their wisdom and their fighting spirit. Yet, they weren’t bitter and showed me a life filled with faith, forgiveness and compassion for others.

I don’t know how NOT to fight, but I…


Black youth and hip hop don’t speak for all of us

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Let me preface this piece by saying I have and will always stand with the Asian community — especially following the racist murder of 6 Asian women in Georgia and increased attacks across the country. Sadly, as we call for unity between Black and Asian communities, another controversy unfolds. TheGrio.com published screenshots of an Asian staffer using the N-word following Alexi McCammond’s resignation from Teen Vogue. This latest development is the inspiration for this article.

To all my Asian brothers and sisters in the United States, abroad or in your respective 49–52 countries:

PLEASE STOP USING THE N-WORD! I do…


A lesson in real diversity and cultural competent communication

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*Quick update: We’ve since confirmed that the lady in the video is Secretary of Housing and Urban Development, Ms. Marcia Fudge. Consequently, revisions were made to give proper respect to Secretary Fudge.

Black Twitter is a blowing up with the video of this beautiful, older sister addressing the White House press corps and expecting some basic respect. It’s customary in Black, some brown communities to greet everyone when we enter the room. The elder followed that long standing custom and social norm and no one responded. As per the tradition, she gave a nonverbal signal for them to course correct…


A funny but true story

White women we don’t want your sad, sloppy seconds

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Let me preface this story by saying this is not about all white people or the faithful and loving few who honor, respect Black and brown people. This story is not about white people who are proudly and happily married to Black and brown people like: Ellen Pompeo, Alexis Ohanian, Paul Wall, and many others. This is about your troubling brethren — like Chet Hanks, Meghan Markle’s dad, Whoppi Goldberg and Halle Berry’s exes who seem to date or pursue Black and brown women by default, convenience, selfish or nefarious reasons.

This is about white men (and some women) who…


Why Bill Maher (BM) types are the worse

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I got a lot of push back on my latest piece about dating white men, but I stand by it.

Some of them are simply wretched and the women who marry and stand by these racist, molecules of men are just as bad and a disgrace to all beings with breasts and estrogen. I call them Privilettas, but I digress…

Back to some white men (because the problematic ones are just as fragile as their wicked women). As I’ve stated in previous pieces, I’ve primarily dated white men for years (out of default), but I can’t lie — this new…


I'm glad I read your piece - the complaining is problematic for me too - I wrote about it too and I feel I'm just getting started too. Good luck in this next phase.

I have to admit, my readership and earnings have never been higher and I'm not writing as much as I use to.

I'm also seeing more diversity - which I didn't see before.


I speak truth to power -

If these harmful incidents weren't so prevalent and NOW being recorded and reported we wouldn't know about them.

What's racist and hateful is the terror and manipulation we've endured for hundreds of years from fake tears and master manipulators.

The truth hurts - all of us have to face the mirror.


Normalizing racist white women is not funny

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When I wrote the piece, changing the name Karen to Priviletta it was originally satirical, but it’s no laughing matter. I have friends name Karen and felt that the name distracted from the highly problematic pattern of behavior that a lot of predominately white women display when harassing Black and brown men, women and children or anyone who tells them no or ignores them.

The origins and evolution of the word Karen is debatable, but what’s not deniable is its comedic roots. Dane Cook described Karen as “the friend nobody likes and a bag of d**che”. However, Jay Pharoah’s Karens…


Wow - thank you for reading my piece and giving such a great comment.

I appreciate you adding the status and comfort woman perspective.

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