Tell our men to bring their friends — our Asian fam needs us

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I am peaceful, but I’m not a passivist — never have been — never will be…I never started a fight, but I ended plenty and stay prepared. My Grandfather taught me how to defend myself, because he said, “the world isn’t safe [for women and girls]”. I was an only child raised by my beloved Grandparents. I have a special place in my heart for grandparents because of their wisdom and their fighting spirit. Yet, they weren’t bitter and showed me a life filled with faith, forgiveness and compassion for others.

I don’t know how NOT to fight, but I…

Black youth and hip hop don’t speak for all of us

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Let me preface this piece by saying I have and will always stand with the Asian community — especially following the racist murder of 6 Asian women in Georgia and increased attacks across the country. Sadly, as we call for unity between Black and Asian communities, another controversy unfolds. published screenshots of an Asian staffer using the N-word following Alexi McCammond’s resignation from Teen Vogue. This latest development is the inspiration for this article.

To all my Asian brothers and sisters in the United States, abroad or in your respective 49–52 countries:


A lesson in real diversity and cultural competent communication

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*Quick update: We’ve since confirmed that the lady in the video is Secretary of Housing and Urban Development, Ms. Marcia Fudge. Consequently, revisions were made to give proper respect to Secretary Fudge.

Black Twitter is a blowing up with the video of this beautiful, older sister addressing the White House press corps and expecting some basic respect. It’s customary in Black, some brown communities to greet everyone when we enter the room. The elder followed that long standing custom and social norm and no one responded. As per the tradition, she gave a nonverbal signal for them to course correct…

A funny but true story

White women we don’t want your sad, sloppy seconds

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Let me preface this story by saying this is not about all white people or the faithful and loving few who honor, respect Black and brown people. This story is not about white people who are proudly and happily married to Black and brown people like: Ellen Pompeo, Alexis Ohanian, Paul Wall, and many others. This is about your troubling brethren — like Chet Hanks, Meghan Markle’s dad, Whoppi Goldberg and Halle Berry’s exes who seem to date or pursue Black and brown women by default, convenience, selfish or nefarious reasons.

This is about white men (and some women) who…

I will revisit my piece for clarity, but it's not hyperbole that enslaved women were raped and were actually breed like animals. Please read William Spivey's work:

However, if I missed something, please educate and provide sources for me and my readers on how many enslaved women had the choice to say no.

I was specifically talking about enslaved women not the Reconstruction era in America and the islands.

If you don't like my piece, that's fine but don't negate the experiences of millions of African women. Enslaved women did not have the right to say yes or no - to sex or if they wanted to have children - the were considered less than human.

Once again, if you have a different American historical reference - please share.

Thank you for reading my piece.

The dangerous and destructive Priviletta

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Amy Cooper strikes again — playing the victim with her former employer. Amy is the poster child for weaponized white female privilege and toxic femininity. Amy was filmed deliberately lying and falsely accusing a Black birdwatcher of threatening her and her dog and is now suing her employer for discrimination after she was fired for her racist theatrics.

Her victim didn’t press charges because he felt, “she learned her lesson”, but clearly, she didn’t, and she never will without real consequences. This isn’t about forgiveness or even lessons learned. This is a matter of justice. …

Dating Over 40

40, Single and scared to mingle

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Am I doomed to be alone?

The world is opening up and I’ve come out of quarantine 8 pounds lighter and feeling good about spring and summer dating. So I hop back on a online dating app and my first conversations makes me I feel like I’m on Candid Camera.

I’m on one of the many sites owned by’s parent company, People Media which I think should be called because it’s just Match with different prices and landing pages with pictures of specific interest groups. Here are all their sites:

Some of us wish we could be so lucky

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I’m hating on the haters and I don’t care — this is not cool. I’m all for critical thinking, but I’m one of millions of writers who did not receive a $500 windfall and happens to be on a super tight budget. I don’t know about you but, I’m getting peeved by the random articles criticizing and questioning why they were one of the fortunate few. …

Everybody is “getting paid” & successful except in finding Black love

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Are all younger, highly educated, Black people beautiful, ballin’ and living happily ever after in post racial America where all the people in their circle are colorblind except for all the green that’s abundantly flowing to and from their bank accounts and love them unconditionally?

Based on the Clubhouse chat rooms:

  • Racism is gone, and older, poor Black folk just don’t understand
  • Black men can date whomever, but Black women need to date only Black men otherwise we’re betraying our race
  • Black women need to look white — but can’t sound white
  • Black women need to shut up and grateful…

I agree - very funny. I'm tired of the privilege party. Some of us are here to perfect our craft and make money - but if money is all you talk about how much value are you adding to your readers and Medium's writing community?

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